Grown-up sheet · Friends' Village · Angry House (house 2)
In this house, children learn to recognize anger in their face and body and in others, that being angry is okay but hurting is not, and to use "under the wing" to calm down, with help.
How to use it
This sheet is not a test. During week 5, watch your child in everyday life and, at the end, tick one box per row.
| Mark | Means |
|---|---|
| Not yet | Doesn't do it, even with help |
| With help | Does it when you're with them or remind them |
| Sometimes alone | Does it without help some of the time |
| Almost always | It's theirs now |
At 3 or 4, calming down almost always happens with a grown-up. "With help" is what to expect for almost everything; a child this age calming down alone is the exception.
What I see
0 / 6 rows marked
- 1 Say "I'm angry" (or something like it) instead of only yelling, hitting or throwing things
- 2 Do "under the wing" or the breathing when you suggest it
- 3 Calm down faster than before, even with help
- 4 Recognize anger in another person (at home or in a book)
- 5 Tell angry from sad on a face
- 6 Game, not scored: wait for the signal in "Pipo Says"
What to do
This house isn't "repeated": anger and "under the wing" come back in every house after this one. If a row stayed at "Not yet", move on to house 3 and add this at home:
| Row | What to watch again | What to do at home |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | The Story from week 1 (Bru's tower) | Name your own anger out loud, calmly: "I'm angry because the food burned; I'm going to breathe" |
| 2 | The Play video from week 3 | Practice "under the wing" together every day when you're calm, as a game. Then, when angry, they already know how |
| 3 | — | This is normal at this age. Keep being there: stay close, with a calm voice, until it passes |
| 4 or 5 | The Play videos from weeks 1 and 4 | Look at faces in books: "is he angry or sad? Look at his eyebrows" |
This house's tool
"Under the wing": stop (hands still), hug yourself, breathe (smell the flower, blow out the candle) and say how you feel. It's already in Pipo's backpack, next to "I say it with words".
Fridge card:
- If my child gets angry, then I say "you're angry" and we go under the wing together.
- If they want to hit, then I stop them calmly ("I won't let you hit") and offer to say it instead.
When to talk to someone: if tantrums are very frequent, very long, or dangerous to them or others, or if anything worries you, talk to their pediatrician. This sheet can't diagnose anything.
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