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Angry House

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In one minute

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🏠 This week

When you get angry, say it: "I'm angry!"

💬 A question for today

"What makes you angry?"

🧲 For the fridge

If my child gets angry, then I say "you're angry" and we go under the wing together.

If they want to hit, then I stop them calmly ("I won't let you hit") and offer to say it instead.

Print the cards →

🎒 This house's tool: Under the wing

In this house

  • What your child learns: to recognize anger in their face and body and in others; that being angry is okay, but hurting is not; and to use "under the wing" to calm down, with your help.
  • Why now: anger is the feeling that most needs tools at this age. It comes after happy and sad, and uses what house 1 left: "I say it with words".
  • The tool: "Under the wing": stop (hands still) → hug yourself → breathe (smell the flower, blow out the candle) → say how you feel.
  • The order of the house matters: first recognizing anger, then what causes it, then the tool and, at the end, the rule ("I don't hit, I don't break things, I say it"). At 3, a rule without a tool to follow it doesn't work.

Something you'll notice: in the videos nobody is ever shown hitting or pushing. It's named ("Bru felt like pushing") and we show what he does instead. Children copy what they see more than what they're told.

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Week 1

Angry

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Wednesday · Story · Angry

What Does Angry Look Like? Bru's Tower

Bru's tower falls; he's angry and says so

💬 To talk about afterwards
  • Ask: "What makes you angry?"
  • Share something of mine: "I get angry when…"
  • Do something together: Make angry faces in the mirror… then calm faces
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Friday · Play · Angry

Angry or Sad? A Faces Game with Pipo

Who is angry? Angry or sad?

💬 To talk about afterwards
  • Ask: "What does someone angry look like?"
  • Share something of mine: "I look at the eyebrows"
  • Do something together: Look for angry faces in a book
2
Week 2

What makes me angry

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Wednesday · Story · What makes me angry

What Makes Us Angry? Tula's Toy Car

Lumi wants Tula's toy car, gets angry, and she was hungry

💬 To talk about afterwards
  • Ask: "What made you angry today?"
  • Share something of mine: "When I'm hungry, I get angrier"
  • Do something together: Make a snack together
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Friday · Play · What makes me angry

Hungry or Sleepy? An Anger Game with Pipo

The tower, the rain, the toy: every anger has a cause

💬 To talk about afterwards
  • Ask: "Were you hungry or sleepy?"
  • Share something of mine: "It happens to me when I'm sleepy"
  • Do something together: Draw "things that make me angry"
3
Week 3

Under the wing

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Wednesday · Story · Under the wing

Pipo's Secret to Calm Down: Under the Wing

It rains; Pipo teaches Bru his secret

💬 To talk about afterwards
  • Ask: "Shall we do it together?"
  • Share something of mine: "I'm going to use it too"
  • Do something together: Practice "under the wing" while calm
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Friday · Play · Under the wing

Practicing Under the Wing with Pipo

Practicing the secret; what helps when you're angry?

💬 To talk about afterwards
  • Ask: "What helps you?"
  • Share something of mine: "Breathing helps me"
  • Do something together: Choose a calm spot in the house together
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Week 4

Angry is okay, hurting is not

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Wednesday · Story · Angry is okay, hurting is not

Angry Is Okay, Hurting Is Not: Tula and the Tower

Tula knocks the tower down by accident; Bru feels like pushing, but goes under his wing and says it

💬 To talk about afterwards
  • Ask: "What did Bru do instead of pushing?"
  • Share something of mine: "Being angry is okay; hurting is not"
  • Do something together: Say together: "I don't hit, I don't break things, I say it"
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Friday · Play · Okay or not?

Okay or Not? An Anger Game with Pipo

Being angry: yes; saying it: yes; pushing: no; under the wing: yes

💬 To talk about afterwards
  • Ask: "What's okay when you're angry?"
  • Share something of mine: "I say it"
  • Do something together: Play "okay or not?" with situations from home
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Week 5

House review

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Wednesday · Pipo Made a Mistake!

Pipo Made a Mistake! Anger Review

Pipo makes four mistakes and your child helps

💬 To talk about afterwards
  • Ask: "What should Pipo have done?"
  • Share something of mine: "It happens to me too"
  • Do something together: Fill in the observation sheet this week
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Friday · House Mix

House Mix: We Keep "Under the Wing"

Games from the whole house; "under the wing" goes into the backpack

💬 To talk about afterwards
  • Ask: "What did Pipo keep?"
  • Share something of mine: "Now we have two tools"
  • Do something together: Put the new card on the fridge

Open the observation sheet

In week 5, watch your child in everyday life and mark what they already do. It isn't a test.

Guides →

🎒 Print the backpack cards → In week 5 the tool goes into the backpack. Stick its card on the fridge.

Guide for grown-ups

How to help with anger in the real moment
  1. First, calm yourself. Your calm voice teaches more than any words.
  2. Name what you see: "You're really angry."
  3. Limit the behavior, not the feeling: "You can be angry. I won't let you hit." If needed, gently stop their hand.
  4. Offer the tool, doing it yourself too: "Shall we go under the wing?" Don't use it as a punishment.
  5. Later, once they're calm, talk: what made them angry, whether they were hungry or sleepy, what they could do next time.

Fridge card:

  • If my child gets angry, then I say "you're angry" and we go under the wing together.
  • If they want to hit, then I stop them calmly ("I won't let you hit") and offer to say it instead.
What not to do
  • "Don't get angry", "it's not a big deal", "stop crying."
  • Punishments or rewards for "not getting angry". The goal isn't that they never get angry, but that they learn what to do with anger.
  • Using "under the wing" as a punishment ("go put yourself under the wing!"). It's a help you do together.
  • Yelling to stop a tantrum: it teaches the opposite of what we want.
When to talk to someone

If tantrums are very frequent, very long, or dangerous to them or others, or if anything worries you, talk to their pediatrician. This guide can't diagnose anything.

The more realistic faces in the videos are AI-generated: they are not real people. Each video says so in its description.