Grown-up sheet · Friends' Village · Scared House (house 3)
In this house, children learn to recognize fear in their face and body and in others, that being scared is okay, to go to their grown-up when they feel it, and that being brave means trying with help, little by little.
How to use it
This sheet is not a test. During week 5, watch your child in everyday life and, at the end, tick one box per row.
| Mark | Means |
|---|---|
| Not yet | Doesn't do it, even with help |
| With help | Does it when you're with them or remind them |
| Sometimes alone | Does it without help some of the time |
| Almost always | It's theirs now |
At this age, going to a grown-up when scared is exactly what we want. It's not "lack of courage": it's the healthy way to calm down at 3 or 4.
What I see
0 / 6 rows marked
- 1 Say "I'm scared" (or something like it) when something scares them
- 2 Come to their grown-up when scared, instead of hiding alone
- 3 Accept help to calm down (a light, a hug, breathing, "under the wing")
- 4 Recognize fear in another person (at home or in a book)
- 5 Tell scared from angry on a face
- 6 Game, not scored: wait for the signal in "Pipo Says"
What to do
This house isn't "repeated": fear and asking for help come back in the next houses. If a row stayed at "Not yet", move on to house 4 and add this at home:
| Row | What to watch again | What to do at home |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | The Story from week 1 (the thunder) | Name your own fears, calmly: "the noise scared me; it's over now" |
| 2 | The Story from week 3 (Bru and the dog) | Remind them "when you're scared, come to me", and always answer calmly when they do |
| 3 | The Play video from week 3 | Choose together, in the daytime and calm, "what helps me when I'm scared" (a little light, a stuffed toy, a hug) |
| 4 or 5 | The Play videos from weeks 1 and 4 | Look at faces in books: "is he scared or angry? Look at his eyebrows" |
This house's tool
"I ask my grown-up for help" (a small hand holding a big one). It's already in Pipo's backpack, next to "I say it with words" and "under the wing".
Fridge card: If my child is scared, then I say "you're scared; I'm here with you" and help them look at what it was, without rushing.
When to talk to someone: if fears are so strong or so frequent that they can't sleep, play or be apart from you for a while, or if anything worries you, talk to their pediatrician. This sheet can't diagnose anything.
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